Entries Tagged as 'Life Management'

Keeping commitments and the adventures of daily living

I was driving today behind a blue-hair and a piece of crap blew out of the bed of his truck. It flew under my car and blew two of my tires. I managed to get my car stopped safely – thank God for run-flat tires.

The tire that saved my butt

I’m also sick – I’ve got a fever as high as the Arizona desert heat – about 105 F today – and I still played in a tennis tournament. I went to work because I consider my job to be an essential service. But then I went to play tennis because I said I would. I don’t want to be the guy who bails.

Peter says, ‘at least you’re not bored.’

He’s right – I’m not bored often. About the only time is when people stick me with problems they said they would have under control. My gripe today is about people who say they will make something a priority, but then they don’t. I said I would make this tennis tournament. I said it was a priority. So I showed up.

I’m not perfect. I want to do things, and I run out of time like everyone else. I want something to be as important to me as it is to the person I’m talking to. But sometimes it’s really number 423 on my list. It’s on the list, and that means I want to do it. It just means I won’t be able to do it today. Or this year.

I guess it a skill like any other. A person has to learn to identify the priority of a project before he commits to it, and be up front about where it stands. It’s honest and polite to tell someone that ‘I would love to, and I will if I have time, but I have other priorities right now, so that will take a back seat.’

That’s how someone else will be prepared. And it’s better to know up front that find out later… and have boring down time while the issue gets resolved.

-Matt

On personal changes, K-1 visas, yearly planning

Hallo from Munchen! It’s a fine afternoon in Bavaria. I am in a wonderful bakery where I had what appeared to be a large pretzel covered in cheese. It was great. Also I ordered a coffee and botched the order. I like a large cup of black coffee… I got a small cup of creamy coffee. I like coffee in any form, and I can use the calories what with all of the walking and excitement, but it’s outside my usual. Unusual fits the pattern of my life at the moment, really. In personal news: I just got engaged. That’s even better news than surprisingly good coffee!

So I was thinking about how I was going to manage this whole seeing-my-fiancée thing, what with her living 10 time zones away from me. That’s time zones, not area codes – as in: if it’s 1 PM at home, it’s 11 PM where she is.

For those of you who didn’t “tune in” during the last month, I managed to get the last data for my dissertation. I’ve been writing up while I am here. I’m going to defend one month after this little post, so things in the education department of my life are moving along. If I can get the PhD out of the way, I can start up as a Post-Doc in the same lab while I negotiate career and location changes. I expect that will take most of a year, and I would like to spend as much of it as possible in Ukraine.

I think I’m going to have to come up with a useful thing to do that I can do in Ukraine because this site (as much fun as it is) will probably not pay the bills for a while yet. Still, I’m enjoying it, so I’m going to post here some of the story of this somewhat unique and romantic journey as I try to accomplish several things:

Acquire a K-1 visa for My fiancée

Advance a scientific career

Earn enough money to live

Maintain health, sanity and contribution

What I learned last month is something about efficient work on individual projects. In group projects, “efficiency” can be counterproductive if it comes at the expense of production capacity. Production capacity in collaboration is rooted in strong relationships. Demanding efficiency degrades strong relationships. QED. Individual projects are another matter. Few people have very individual projects. I happen to have both kinds. For collaboration, patiently dealing with interruptions in a way that is relationship-building and helpful makes it possible to ask a lot of people.

In my current job, production is measured in publications. I can help make publications by doing two things: 1. write papers and 2. help people write papers. But I only get credit for production in case 1. So when I help others, I expect a bit of quid pro quo. So I can be the most productive both in the global (overall papers from the lab) and personal (papers with my name in front) sense if I work on my own, personal project and also have projects in which I help others and they help me. The projects in the quid-pro-quo category inevitably take up 6 hours every day. They require meetings, interruptions, discussions, and so on. There’s no way to avoid it without crippling the process. But 2 hours a day is not enough to make rapid progress in the personal-project department. I need about 8 hours a day for that (4 for thinking, planning and set-up, 3 for experiment, 1 for clean-up). That’s 14 hours a day. And that’s what I did in July. And it sucked, but it made more progress in 1 month than I usually make in 3. Why? Because normally I can only steal 1 day per week for the whole 8 hour personal project work. Working 14 hour days, I get maximal personal-project without sacrificing collaborative production. We’ll see how that works out.

-Peter

too tired. will do better soon.

I have not updated this week because I have been trying to get the data I need to graduate. And I need it in 10 days. It’s like playing roulette with hours of my life: “3 hours on Black 23 to win!”
The very suggestive Dounce Homogenizer
I am making progress, but will it be enough? The funny thing is that if you work 16 hours a day, the second 8 is actually really good work. Nobody interrupts the second 8 hours. It’s kind-of refreshing.

On a slightly related note, check out that Dounce Homogenizer. Sounds sexy doesn’t it?

I once knew a physicist with a keen sense of irony. Good sense of humor. Then he got to Quals. Quals are like the Board Exam or the Bar Exam, except after those you get to be a Doctor or Lawyer. After Quals you get to keep being a student. You earn the right to keep going. Thank the powers, my program didn’t have quals. After his quals, my friend had no sense of irony. I would make perfectly absurd statements. Things contrary to common sense and all factual data available. Right by him. Not even register.

I’m getting there. I feel like life is giving me the Dounce Homogenizer Treatment.

-Peter

Getting enough sleep is key, but how much is enough?

I posted about some gumption traps before, and I mentioned caffeine as one of my favorite solutions. The underlying issue, of course, is sleep. Not too long ago, I made a note of the fact that even the simplest creatures imaginable have something like sleep. Evidently, it is pretty important.

According to this article over at news.yahoo.com, most people perform best on about 7.5 hours per night. My experience is consistent with the results presented in the news bit. Too little sleep leaves me uncreative and groggy; too much and I am lethargic. There is a balance to be struck. My problem is mornings. I hate getting up. I always feel less tired when I go to sleep than I do when I wake. That makes no sense. It drives me crazy. I’ll be rearing to go at midnight, and I force myself to go to bed then have to meditate to calm down enough to fall asleep. Then I wake up 8 hours later when the alarm goes off and I fell like my world will cave in if I don’t get 4 more hours of sleep. It’s absurd.K. Griffy Jr. in The Simpsons episode: the effects of Nerve Tonic

I’ve tried polyphasic sleep (I live a 7 min walk away from my work, so I can go home to sleep if I want). I’ve tried the rolling 28 hour day. They both left me with horrific nightmares. I felt like I was on a fast track to a mental breakdown. It was not good. So I muddle along.

I have mentioned nootropics here as well. I have not tried anything except caffeine. Maybe that’s why people get into them. Matt (that other guy on this site) sent me the sleep article; he also tells me that the use of nootropics is common among pharmaceutical representatives (he used to be one). Go figure. Think of science as the Sport of the Mind, except that there’s no rule against doping. Makes me want to go get a bottle of Nerve Tonic.

-Peter

Gumption traps and how to get motivated, part 4: Over-prioritizing

Over-prioritizing. That’s what I call it when I stare at my list and agonize over what is the most important thing. To be fair, it is important to prioritize your to do list. But don’t spend more time on the list than you spend on the items in it. One thing I like about the GTD system is that you don’t put things back in the inbox. Until hard-landscape items come up (appointments and meetings) you work on the next thing. All of the next things are treated as equal priority. Prioritizing next things can be a full time job, even above doing next things.
If it’s an official Next Thing, then it made it through your weekly review. It must be important. If it’s important, it doesn’t need to be the most important thing to be done next. It just needs to be done. In that spirit, I’ll keep this brief.

-Peter